Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder. -Henry David Thoreau
Exactly how much do I hate accounting?
Every time I have a mistake in my labs, I always go back and check my code to fix it.
Every time I get anything wrong in my accounting assignments and tests, I don’t bother. Because I have no interest and because I have too many mistakes to fix.
Hugs that last over twenty seconds, release a chemical in your body called “Oxytocin”, which makes you trust the person you’re hugging more.
“We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth” - Virginia Satir, family therapist
Hugging someone is a way of showing that we care, and for both the hugged and hugger, it feels good. When growing up, we are very sensitive to touch. We recognize our parents initially through sense of touch.
Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts like a hormone and helps promote trust. It’s released in the body when we feel safe. This could be through breast-feeding (when we’re little), holding hands, snuggling, dancing with someone, during a massage or body work out or things that generally make us feel at ease. Hugging is definitely one of the things that make us release oxytocin.
You might sometimes wonder if your friends are really there to support you or if your friendship is doing more harm than good. Here are the top signs that they’re either working for you or against you. See which category your friends fall into:
· They help you when you need it. Good friends are there for you and willing to lend a hand or their support whenever you need it, without hesitating.
· They build you up. Your friends should inspire you and make you feel like a million bucks. They should encourage you and make you feel like you can accomplish anything.
· They offer distraction when you need it. When you’re down and out and need to just have some fun, your friends should be there to take you out and show you a good time to get away from your woes.
· They listen. When you need to vent, your true friends are there to listen and give advice.
· They support you. Even if they don’t agree with all of your decisions, a good friend is supportive of you in good times and bad.
· They judge you. Regardless of whether they agree with your decisions, good friends shouldn’t be judgmental. If you feel like your friends are always judging you then maybe they aren’t as friendly as you think.
· They take but never give. Your friends are working against you if they always want to enjoy the benefits of your friendship, but never offer up any of their own. If you’re always helping them and supporting them but they aren’t willing to do the same for you, then you might need to find new friends.
· They talk behind your back. True friends will say what they need to say to your face. Even if it’s not positive, they should be mature enough to talk to you about it, instead of trashing you to other people.
· Betray you. Your friends should never throw you under the bus just to save face. If your friends have betrayed you once, you might wonder what would stop them from doing it again and again.
· Reveal your secrets. What you tell your friends in confidence should remain that way. If they tell everyone your secrets or use them against you, then they are definitely working against you. Time for new friends.